Anxiety, in more depth
Are any of us totally free of anxiety or do we all have other voices in our head undermining the things we want to do, at least to some degree? How many times do you find yourself saying “I won’t eat any sugar today” only to find yourself eating a doughnut at half past ten? It is a common theme and unless you get to understand how the voices come about (and leave) you will be susceptible to anxiety and indecision.
If you just had two ‘voices’ inside you it would be easy to sort out but there are usually more. In fact there are as many as you have unresolved emotional issues and there is always that extra one that causes more problems. You are not mad to have these voices; they are a defence mechanism that have relevance at different times. For example, if you have been hurt by someone there will be a voice trying to protect you from the same kind of hurt and it will continue until you heal the hurt. The consequence of this hurt could well be indecision. Competing voices can come about for other reasons. For example, at work your values may be different from your values when you are with your family and so, simplistically, you will sometimes have competing voices saying “get to bed early” and at the same time the other voice might be saying “Stay up and get the work done.” These two voices may cause anxiety. Regardless of the cause of the voices, there is always a solution.
Sometimes the voices exist but don’t say much or just talk quietly. Its like when you want to do something but you have resistance to it or you know it is going to go wrong. A bad hair day is a quiet voice opposing what you want to do. Anxiety occurs when the voices are in opposition to one another. For example, after a minor car accident you might have the following dialogue with yourself: “We should go out”. “It is too dangerous to go out”. “We haven’t been out in days”. “Just stay in, it’s safer”. When those thoughts all happen in the space of about a second there will be a feeling of anxiety, an inner conflict. Anxiety, and any inner conflict, is a pull in different directions. We all have the opposing thoughts and feelings but most of the time we work around them. A better way is to release them.
Boulderstone Technique practitioners know how to release the voices by getting the voices to complete their purpose. Each voice has a purpose and once the purpose has been realised there is no longer a need for that voice. However, until the purpose is realised it will continue to make its presence known. When all the voices are made quiet any anxiety that was present due to those voices will be gone, forever.
Everyone has contradictory voices, unless they have actually reached the stage of enlightenment. All voices are always trying to help their owner even when it appears otherwise. In the minor accident example above there is a part of the person that doesn’t want another car accident and a part that knows staying inside will limit possibilities. Both parts are trying to help. The way to go about silencing the voices is to first make them active. This may seem counter-intuitive because we want to make them quiet but getting them active, which will also get the anxiety active, is the first step in their removal.
Our technique starts with the client lying on a couch while the practitioner holds the client’s head and the client activates the voices and the anxiety by connecting with a previously discovered cause. When this happens the practitioner can actually feel the opposing voices as a physical pull. One of the voices will be more dominant than the other(s) and this is the one that is worked with. The voice feels like it wants to physically go somewhere and the practitioner allows that physical movement, never losing the path the voice wants to make. The physical path is a mirror of the internal thinking that is going on in the client. The reason the client has the problem is because they haven’t allowed the problem to fully resolve. They stop it, usually because they think it will be too painful to allow it to complete. With the practitioner’s help the client can complete the ‘journey’ and resolve the problem with ease.
Generally, the movement continues for as long as it has something to do. It moves smoothly and gradually gets weaker as the path finds its way towards completion. Eventually, the movement comes to a peaceful ending where it no longer has any energy to move. It has completed its purpose. If there are no further opposing voices the anxiety will be gone, otherwise the next voice is followed and that one is cleared.
This method of removing anxiety is probably the most efficient way to remove any emotional stress because it does not require any talking from the patient. Words are actually quite poor in reflecting what is going on in the mind of the patient while their thoughts and feelings are beautifully expressed by their unconscious movements.
The secret to this method is making a physical connection that reflects the thoughts and feelings of the client with their problem. This is what Boulderstone Technique practitioners are trained in. The lovely part about the technique is that the client doesn’t have to do any further work or special thinking. When the movement is complete the problem, whether it be due to anxiety or anything else, is totally resolved.
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